Domestic violence is one of those dirty little secrets in many households, and only sometimes brought into the open when the police and courts get involved.

Across America, there exist homes where spousal abuse or abuse to children are commonplace. That much is known. What is less known is that there are alternatives to accepting the abuse. However, it takes courage.

Resources exist, from counseling to safe-houses, where abuse victims can get the emotional support they need to help them make that next step toward a legal solution.

The Christmas holidays may seem to be an unusual time to discuss such a matter, but the fact remains that this abuse happens year-around and seems to become more frequent during the holidays.

Christmas is intended as a sign of renewal, of peace and of love. It is a celebration of the Prince of Peace and His message. It is not a time for bitterness, for violence, for hatred or for cruelty – not that such times exist.

However, we should all remember not everyone’s holidays will be blessed or peaceful. We need to be aware of our neighbors and be willing to lend an ear or any support needed to a victim of domestic violence.

If you emotionally or physically abuse a family member, stop. Seek help. Help is always available from a church and from a number of social service agencies. It does not matter if you yourself was a victim, you can stop the cycle and end it now.

If you are a victim of emotional or physical domestic abuse, seek help, even if it’s talking to a friend. This season means more when we help each other.

L’Observateur