Fathers should be the ‘safe place’
Published 12:00 am Saturday, January 2, 2010
Looking over some old articles New Year’s Eve, I came across this written approximately 25 years ago by Linda Andersen, a freelance writer from Hudsonville, Mich.
As we begin a new year, it may be good for every father to reflect on the following:
AN OPEN LETTER TO FATHERS
She was blond and beautiful, with blue eyes and a tumble of tawny curls. At three years of age, she would climb into her daddy’s lap, snuggle up with a wide, satisfied smile, and purr, “This is my safe place!” And so it was.
Dads, YOU are the “safe place.” You are our protector and provider. And when you gather us for a time with God, we need a safe place. A safe place, not a lecture. A safe place, not a sermon. A very human dad who simply cares about God and us.
We don’t need or even want a “spiritual giant.” We just want you.
And we need a gathering time (phone unplugged) where it’s safe to say to each other, “How are you and the Lord getting along?” “How can we pray today?”
We need a safe place to cry, laugh, sing, rejoice, challenge, share and sometimes not to share and have it be okay. We need a time with you that’s relaxed – unstiff, when we can pray honestly, in simple sentences, from our hearts. Unfixed. Unrigid. Unroutine. Unshackled. We need a place where irregular opinions are respected, and where God has the last word.
We need a gentleman leader, not a general. Gracious. Relaxed. Human. A family shepherd who exhibits not infallible authority but a thirst for God.
Everyday? Not necessarily. Often? Yes. Long? No. Where? Anywhere. How? Sense where we’re at and zero in. We may need heavy-duty confessing to each other and to God…silent prayer…exuberant praise (try sing-a-long tapes)…Bible study, but not every time.
Thanks for listening, Dad. Remember, we need you.
Your children
May the New Year bring you good health, happiness and lots of love.
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